From Mercedes Facebook Wall. I think a lot of women are going through same but they fail to speak up.
Hi dear, kindly help me publish dis on your wall anonymously. Really wanna sample people's opinions, would have done it myself but if I do the fight no go end. Is it right for a man to call his wife names? Like see as you be like toad, or tortoise or see as you short for ground. Imagine after dressing for church on Sunday and husband looks at you and tells you see as you short like tortoise or toad just to mention a few out of the names. Now that is not even the issue but the problem is that this is beginning to affect my confidence as a woman because I believe my husband should make me feel on top of the world and walk with my shoulders high, I feel he doesn't appreciate me, are his side chicks better than me? So why did he marry me? What really attracted him to me?
You know why i'm angry this is someone i have done a lot of sacrifices to and I still do but nobody knows that the car he uses to pose around I bought with my hard earned money but still move inside keke just to mention a few. Of course I know I'm not the most beautiful woman in the world but I just feel it's not right for husbands to call their wives names and that also makes me feel he only appreciates what I have and not me. And secondly, we have church differences he attends Christ Embassy and I attend living faith I was going with him to his church before we got married but after that I just felt I can't continue to reasons best known to me but he insisted that I can't go back to my church else the marriage will end in order not to argue I accepted but most times I don't go to church I stay at home because when I follow him I know how I battle with my spirit I asked him his reason for stopping me from going back to my church he said he can't go to a different church with his wife.
Fine so now he is more comfortable with me staying at home than going to church, to crown it all he said if I follow him, I don't allow him to do all what he is supposed to do? Hmmmn ask me o!!. Now he goes everyday from Sunday to another Sunday which he was not doing before. The church meetings are highly important than family matters even my job because most times I close late and he will be shouting that don't I know he is going to church? I had to forcefully put a stop to that. That's not my problem he can decide to be sleeping in church for all I care and everyday he has become professional driver for his members both men and women he takes them to their houses after church with my car and stopped me from going to church. The same members I know tell me that. Could that be the reason why he said if I follow him to church I don't allow him to do all he wants to do?
Probably if he allows me to go to my church of because I will have to go with my car and that will counter the big boy impression he has given his passengers in church and if I follow him he will not have d opportunity to do the driver work well. What can I do in such situations? Will I quit going to church because of marriage? Or do I continue following and keep battling with my spirit? Or better still should I allow him with the car and keep entering keke which is very difficult to get on Sundays to church because we don't go or close at the same time.which I'm sure he might allow because I know him. But the painful thing is the same people who will see me inside keke and ask where is your car are the same people that will see him going to drop his passengers and they tell me not amebo o! And these are people that don't live close to us at all. Maybe thats why he calls me toad and others because I feel that's a toad's decision I'm about to take.
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